Whether you’ve been with your partner for the last 30 years or you’ve recently found a new love, it’s always a good idea to spend a bit of time freshening up on your relationship skills and maybe learning a few new ones along the way. If things have become a little bit stagnant in your relationship or you’ve found that dating is no longer like it used to be, then follow some of the advice given on Living Better 50 below:
Do Something Nice for Your Partner
There’s nothing better in a relationship than getting a surprise present from your partner. The good news is that you don’t have to spend a fortune on lavish gifts in order to show them that you care. It could be something as simple as letting them have a lie-in at the weekend or maybe getting something from the supermarket on the way home from work just because you know they love it. If you want to keep your relationship strong and healthy, then listen to your partner’s needs and try your best to fulfill them.
Make Your Relationship a Priority
As we get older, many of us put our relationship with our spouse on autopilot. After money, this is one of the main causes of a relationship breakup. Ignoring your partner and not making time for them shows them that you no longer need or want them in your life. This can lead to them looking for attention elsewhere. To avoid this from happening, spend time with your partner, plan dates together, or simply make sure you spend some quality time together in the evening when nothing is bothering you.
Accept and Appreciate Your Spouse
If you want your relationship to remain happy and strong, - and that is equally true for all ages - then you need to learn to accept and appreciate your partner. It takes time to learn every little detail about your partner, and sometimes it's not only about time because we're human, and we change all the time - we're constantly growing, evolving, transforming, reincarnating... While you may not like some of the things they do or say, you need to be able to accept them and value their opinions. A balanced relationship where you both feel able to express your ideas and opinion (even if you don’t agree on everything all of the time) is much healthier than one where you hide them.
Don’t Argue Over Money
One of the main reasons people choose to leave their partner is because of money. Couples who want to maintain a strong and healthy relationship need to be able to talk about money. Even if your finances aren’t great, it’s better to discuss it with your partner. They might be able to help you find solutions to your problems. Sharing this information and overcoming problems together will help to make your relationship stronger.
Never Stop Learning
Don’t assume that just because you’ve been with your spouse for a long time that you know every little detail about them. People can change over time. Staying informed about the changes that your partner is going through will help your relationship to remain strong.
Although love and commitment are the foundation of any happy marriage or relationship, love is often not enough to keep a relationship strong and healthy. In order to have a functional relationship, you need to work on it.
In what ways do you take care of your relationship? Have you ever used any of these 'tips'? What's your recipe for strengthening a love relationship? As always - we will be more than happy to hear.
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